Its easy to mix up being nice with being a pleaser. Nice is considerate and reasonable to those around us whereas being a pleaser means trying to do whatever others want. So you can be nice and actually get a kick out of it because there is nothing like the inner glow you get from carrying out acts of unsolicited kindnedd. But that is your decision; this is why it feels so good. It gets too much when others expect you to be nice and take advantage. The basic line is this, if you do it so that others will like you, your on a slippery slope to misry because you wait in vain for that approval you crave, but if you do it because you like yourself a bit more, it'll work everytime. Liking ourselves is the basic essential ingredient for a decent, happy life as self-esteem and confidence come from yourself and you cannot get it from other people.
So many of us spend our early adult life without a clue who the real 'us' is. We are so busy tyring to be what other people want us to be. We all want to be liked and loved. Its a basic human need. But you have to balance this with your own hopes, disires and dreams. Wanting to be loved can get in the way of what we want to acheive in life, that great job all our friends are after too or that really cute guy everyone you know has set their sights on. Why not you? Why step aside? Why be nice if deep down your miserable? being too nice is not being nice to yourself. So save it for someone who deserves it, above all else, be nice to yourself.
well, thats that. I realised that I've been a pleaser for far too long. Maybe thats the reason why Im never really happy? I suppose so. Still searching for that answer which Im looking so. Perharps, the answer will only come to you without you knowing. Maybe the answer has already come. But its just that I was too blind to see it. Gosh, whatever. Head's aching like hell. Must be the lack of sleep. URGH, Im on the verge of collapse. I swear im gonna faint one day if I dont sleep early. well, gonna end here now.
spanish~
